Jim Carrey Non-Duality & Kid Help ~ Perth Satsang Q&A 2017

[00:00:04] They took Jim Carrey on. He's into non-duality now. He's running around telling everybody he's nobody. Doesn't know who he is. Jim Carrey is a character playing characters. It's great. Good on him. How gutsy is he? Because he's not identified anymore. He's lost all his fear, so he's just saying whatever he wants. Having said that, I think he's still... he has worked it, make no mistake, but he's flip-flopping and he's very courageous. He's courageous to even do what he does in the first place, and then this has arisen, and he's started having glimpses, and he's just saying it, saying it how it is on the world stage. And everybody loves Jim, so it's a wonderful thing for non-duality, potentially. We'll see. But if anyone can find home, isn't that a beautiful thing? Isn't that a beautiful thing? Even if he influences one person, job done. That's all he... I'm sure he wants, just guessing. [00:57:00] But I've had people contacting me about it, saying, I get it now, you know, after Prince has on the bandwagon now, and a few younger influencers, so it's becoming less of this very strange thing people do. [01:18:00] Doesn't matter. Who's who's here is supposed to be here. Who's there is supposed to be there. The swirling fog of of the one, appearing to be two. It's not. Appearing to be a ten thousand, it's not. Taoist, the world of ten thousand things, it's not. It's illusion. It appears to be one, but it's not even one. Appears to be nothing, it's not even nothing. And it's everything. These 26 letters aren't going to cover it. Sorry. Get over it. Work it out. And know, the forty letter alphabet won't do it either. Sorry. Just in case you think that might be the solution. [02:32:00] Namaste. [02:34:00] Hello. You've got some front lighting today. It's very nice. It's good to see you properly. [02:42:00] I bought a little lamp at the uh, down at the shed there, yes. [02:45:00] Good for you. Good for you. Good timing, but I'm glad it arrived. [02:51:00] Actually, I reckon that that camera angle is probably more suitable. It makes us feel like we're looking up to you. [02:58:00] Oh, that's not what I want. There's nothing to look up at. Don't ever look up. Look across. Look across. [03:08:00] Merge. [03:11:00] Don't look up, that's that's a mistake. That's a religion thing, you know. Not what we do here. It's the one. It's all one. Anyway. But thank you. I'll take it as a compliment because that's what you're supposed to do. Let's carry on. [03:25:00] Namaste. [03:33:00] So, um, school holidays, as you know, I've had a five-year-old joined to the hip for a couple of days now. But just [03:41:00] Could be worse, you could have been born that way. [03:47:00] All good. Be grateful, anyway. Carry on. [03:51:00] Um, but just today Ash said something to me that kind of open opened my eyes a little. However, he said, oh, you sometimes you get angry at me, Dad. And I had to kind of apologize, and but the thing is, I I it's not really that I get angry, it's just that he wears me down and I think it's my it's um, more more of a patience thing, I think. But I just wanted to say to him, oh, look, I'm I'm trying to, you know, trying to overcome that. I don't want him to see me as getting angry, uh, regardless, it's it's not real anger, it's more uh, yeah, just sort of frustration, impatience, but yeah, just made me realize [04:41:00] Uh, yes, well, exactly. I I wanted to say to him, look, I'm I'm working on resolving that. I don't want to don't want to come across as being angry or frustrated or [04:56:00] lacking patience towards him. But unfortunately, that's a time thing that's that's going to take time, I realize. [05:03:00] Ah, well, just stop it. Yeah. Here's the other thing, you need to perhaps, here's a suggestion, is um, as soon as you notice your frustration coming up, put some have a little tool kit in place. Have what you're going to do about it. You know, because you're saying, okay, it's there and it's going to take time, but I don't see any actionable plan in in your in your uh methodology right now. I'm an engineer, you know, and I'm taking apart an engine from the inside out. Right? I used to work on three-story high engines, massive, you know. And you actually did climb into them, you open doors on the side of them and climbed into them and so I'm taking it apart from the inside out. Okay? For that, you need methodology, don't you? You don't just go in, oh, let's just angle grind this. You you work out which bolt, what power, you know, you have a methodology, isn't it? And you need the same to do this. Otherwise, it'll be clumsy and you'll do all sorts of harm and you won't might be successful. And it'll be an ongoing thing, I'm going to take that engine apart one day. It'll take time. And that'll become the story. And then in the future, it'll still take time, and then in the future, it'll still take time. [06:21:00] Understand. So, yeah, it might not be immediate, but let's not curse ourselves, let's say. Huh? But let's start putting systems in place instead. Instead of cursing, let's put systems in place and forget about time. [06:42:00] Yeah, I know I do say it takes time, but it also may not. Like anything. Okay, so let's just put systems in place and do it in the now. So, do you have any ideas what you could do? I mean, it's going to be different situations where you can't escape. I'm assuming. You're it. You can't tell him to drive off somewhere and go grab a beer or something and work out what you're up to, mate, because it's you know, you got to [07:08:00] You're going to be trapped with him for time, so you're going to have to put some strategies in place, know? The first thing is, I I think you're going to have to notice the arising in you nice and early instead of at the last minute when it's about to erupt out of you. Because it's going to it it will start earlier. Do you notice it starting? [07:28:00] Well, uh, yes. Yes. It's I mean, this this morning it was from the get-go, I was a bit tired and stuff and he wanted to get up and it was it was kind of a relentless day. However, I sort of I took him out for a while just so that he was when he's in the back seat of the car, it's sort of not so bad, you know, so he [07:50:00] Well, here's something that's coming, an idea that's coming to me, just an idea is this, what if you got him on board and says you don't like me getting angry? It's just an idea. See how it sits. You don't like me getting angry. How about I let you know when I'm starting to get frustrated or if I'm already grumpy or a little bit out of shape, I'll let you know earlier and you'll know to back off. And we work together as a team on this, and you help me and I'll help and it helps you. I don't know, it's just an idea. I'm not sure of your relationship with him exactly, or others, but we yeah, [08:30:00] I reckon you would understand that. [08:33:00] You can give it a go and and then you can modify the course and adjust over to whatever suits the dynamic. Every dynamic's different and I'm not in the middle of it. I'm not there for it. [08:46:00] But if you can't escape him, why don't you see if you can get him on the team. If you don't like me getting angry, you know, hey, I'll let you know when I'm frustrated and and see if you can practice backing off when I'm when I just and you've also got to let go. You've got to start to notice these things arising and letting go and letting go, so that frustration doesn't build. [09:04:00] Yeah. I've I've have done the the surrender a couple of times and um, yeah, but [09:10:00] Just a couple of times, that sucks, isn't it? That's terrible. Only couple. [09:19:00] Yeah, when when he starts tickling your feet, that gets me. [09:25:00] While you're sleeping, he strapped down your legs and he's got a feather going. He's got like a Satan mask on and he's tickling your legs. [09:44:00] Yeah, it's not that bad, isn't it? But they look they look that bad when we're out of shape, don't they, you know? That's the power of emotions of this emotional body that we have. Just converts innocent little children into into monsters sometimes, isn't it? And does that to people, and we make enemies and all different things. [10:08:00] But anyway, I just threw an idea forward. Why don't you just brainstorm and just come up with different ideas and strategies. Think of all the different scenarios. Engineer it. Think of all the different scenarios that are already happened that you've been involved in, and what you could have done in each of them, and see if you can work out some sort of common strategy you can use. Well, me, look, surrender is the ultimate. The most important thing is you don't get angry with your children if you can help it because it's a destroyer. [10:37:00] You know, as I got taught, and it's a psychological understanding that anger is a destroyer. It destroys relationships. It destroys you know, lifelong friendships get destroyed by one, if they're not solid, one outburst of anger. Marriages, you know. Children's closeness. [10:54:00] I think that's why I brought it up, because I don't it's I don't really find that I get angry with him, it's more frustration, but he sees it as anger. [11:03:00] Yeah. Okay, true. [11:09:00] Yeah, I don't think it's good. It's very hard not to. I do understand. I do understand. Especially before awakening was extremely hard for me to stay calm because, you know, I had similar experiences with my children where they just keep pushing and pushing and pushing. And they and the minute they see a bit of a weakness, well, some dumb, my child, one of my children would um, would would hone in on it and then try to push it harder. So, we have to be the unmoving, we have to be unmoving. We have to be the one that's still no matter what's going on and then they I think you've already given me an example of this working for you. That stillness just dropped everything. It's already You've already proven this once, have you not? So, use that, it's proven. And then work out some strategies. while you're working on let go and noticing this stuff earlier because as you say, it may not happen. It probably won't happen immediately. So, work out some strategies. Engineer it. Look at the history, look at what's going to happen in the future and work out what you're going to do and and practice what you and adjust as as required. [12:34:00] But I think definitely staying unmoving as possible is very powerful. And then when you do speak, it's going to be heard. When you do want to put your foot down, it's going to be heard. [12:46:00] You know, but you want to keep your. You know, this isn't really a self-help clinic, but it's also, we're also on the this is all around the same subject, so we'll talk about it, you know what I mean? This is about you letting go. In the interim, let's not harm your relationships. You know, so this is where the strategies come in just to [13:07:00] You can work that out. You you can see what worked and what hasn't, and work it out. [13:14:00] Once the kids I think see you, they can move you, that gives them a bit of power, doesn't it? Once they see they can control your emotions, it's quite, you know. [13:24:00] It can be seen as powerful by them potentially. Like anyone, anyone that can manipulate you has a power over you to some degree, don't they? [13:37:00] Whether it's a five-year-old or a fifty-year-old. If they if they can say certain things and do certain things that manipulate your behavior, you know, they there's a string, they've got you on a string a little bit, huh? So higher consciousness is um those strings start to break away. You you're too aware. You're too sharp in the moment. You can see it coming and you can react or act or ignore and you know, make get through situations without too much harm happening and just as you know, like animals can sense fear and different things in in other humans without really registering it in our mind. So can humans. Humans can sense who's aware and who's sharp and who's dangerous and who's not. We still have that animalistic instinct within us. And it might not even be coming up into the conscious mind and being thought, but the actions will reflect what's being sensed. And that's what happens with bullies. They can sense weak kids and even adult bullies can sense weaker for what perceived weaker people, they're more sensitive and gentle, and they can go on the attack without even realizing they're doing it. It's just still happening on that animalistic level. And sometimes on the mental level, too. So, as we head up in consciousness, you know, the energy we're putting off will shift, too. So, these practices will will will help that shift. And then we have a more harmonious world. If people learn not to mess with harmony, you know? It actually works on that level, too. In that moment, there's not a disharmonious situation going on. Doesn't need to be that way. It's sad. It's hard to hard to hard to watch. The same mistakes being made over and over and over.

• Inner Engineering
  The methodical deconstruction of internal patterns, treating the mind like a machine that can be taken apart and reconfigured for optimal function.
• Methodology
  A systematic, repeatable process for dismantling ego-structures, contrasted with vague, hope-based approaches that rely on time.
• The Unmoving
  A state of profound inner stillness that is not disturbed by external events, from which true power and clear action arise.
• The Mitoté (The Fog)
  The internal noise and emotional confusion, such as the seeker's 'frustration,' that obscures clear seeing. Rohan refers to this as the 'swirling fog'.
• Direct Seeing
  Noticing the arising of a pattern (like frustration) in real-time, without the story or judgment attached, allowing for early intervention.
• Pattern Interruption
  The specific action or 'toolkit' used to break a habitual emotional or mental sequence at its inception.
• Agreements
  The unconscious beliefs we hold, such as 'it will take time to change,' which dictate our reality and limit our capacity for immediate shifts.
• Ego-Structures
  The collection of reactive patterns and identities, like the 'frustrated father,' that operate automatically until deconstructed.
• The One
  The non-dual reality that appears as multiplicity ('the ten thousand things') but is fundamentally not separate.
• Skillful Means
  Practical strategies, like bringing a child 'on the team,' that are not the ultimate truth but are effective tools for navigating conditioned reality and reducing harm.