The Real Reason Why We Suffer

[00:08:00] So why would we wanna feel all these things? [00:10:14] Wouldn't we wanna get away from them? [00:13:30] Hey? Why would we wanna hang there? [00:17:31] If we're not feeling them, we're denying reality. We're dying, denying truth, we're denying the moment, we're denying now, and we're avoiding. [00:26:75] And and then what we might do is crave happiness, contentment, joy. [00:35:46] What else? Power, which is not feeling good. [00:41:88] Food's the stimuli from food, stimuli from conversation, stimuli from Facebook, social media. [00:52:84] Etc, etc. [00:53:77] So then we avoid what's within us in that moment, like if, for example, recently somebody's grandfather died. [01:02:18] There's going to be grief and sadness with that. I mean, if you like the person, there's going to be grief and sadness with it, isn't it? [01:09:68] And so that's a natural part of life. That's a natural part of us being a human here. Having this form is it contains these sensations, it contains these interactive experiences, these relationships. [01:28:65] And these relationships can lead to tearings when they break. [01:37:37] Somebody dies that we care about or somebody moves away that we care about or we lose a partner. And there's a tearing, there's this deep uncomfortableness that can arise. [01:52:86] And what the vast majority of humanity does is they try to push it away and ignore it. [02:00:02] You know, you see on all the movies a guy, a girl leaves the guy and he runs off and let's go get drunk, let's go party, let's shake this off. [02:08:52] And basically it's like, let's avoid this for as long as we can, get you intoxicated so you can forget about it and you can get on with your life. [02:13:84] But what this behavior, just using that example, what this behavior does, it doesn't heal anything. This thing is now in the system. [02:22:15] And it's collected with all the other stuff in the system related around this. And we now energy system, it'll be stored in a certain place that matches that frequency. [02:30:31] And that's where it lives until something else triggers it, then it pops and we relive it again. Over and over and over again. So one incident now can turn into a thousand incidents. If it's really traumatic, it can just keep coming back and coming back and coming back. [02:45:34] And so now the past is our present. And our present is therefore disappeared. [02:56:58] And then we live in our past pain. [02:58:80] Because we didn't heal it in that moment. [03:00:23] And the body is an incredible storage mechanism. It stores it in the cells, in energetic form. [03:07:31] So the mind can still function, and you don't get eaten by a lion 'cause you're too traumatized to run. [03:15:75] So it's a survival mechanism, isn't it? So we we store the stuff and you get on with things. [03:21:40] So you can almost say the vast majority of what makes up a human being or a human here, [03:28:65] or human not here, you might say, [03:30:39] is is a series of patterns and avoidances and cravings. [03:40:48] So a lot of your personality's the language and the culture you're raised in, your cultural family, and on the way out, your city, your town, your your suburb, your street, even, isn't that one street's full of rough necks and the next street's full of luxury houses in some places. Which street were you grown up on will determine a lot of your patterning. Your responses. [04:03:38] So we could say it's a series of interactive responses, patterns. [04:08:92] that we call I. We wrap it up in a bag and put our first name on it. [04:12:35] But then these responses change as we evolve or devolve, as we get dumber or smarter, wiser or dumber. So they're transient, they come and go. [04:25:70] So a lot of these patterns are driven by these past energies within us, and and they're also what the mind's capable of doing is imagining futures and dreams, [04:30:95] and then craving them or not wanting them and having worry or anxiety, setting up expectations or fears. [04:51:75] And all these things end up vibrations through our nervous system. [04:54:33] And then they resonate with the stuff that's already stored there, and suddenly all these patterns are are evolving that then play out in the world. [05:09:68] So when you learn to feel what's within you in the moment, and have the courage and the skill set, who, there's a skill set, there's a muscle that gets exercised. It it can be difficult. [05:23:76] When you learn to just feel what's within you in the moment, moment to moment, day to day and not run from it and avoid it, and this happens very subtly, as as as people are discovering. As they get deeper into this, it happens so subtly, you don't even know it's happening. [05:34:65] So even getting your awareness to a state that you notice these little moves and shifts of the patterns within you, that you just consider normal, may not be normal, they may be just things playing out that you're not aware of, that are actually dysfunctional and causing you and others pain. [05:57:95] So when we when we feel all these things, we heal them in the moment. They they they express themselves. They complexion, they change. We may shake. We may feel uncomfortable. We may need to leave the room. Or make a note. I'm in the middle of a business meeting, or I'm in the middle of work. I can't deal with this right now, but later I'm going to go away and feel this in its entirety. Allow it to express itself, allow it to have some air. [06:24:43] And and guess what? That that that piece of trauma, let's call it trauma, because it's an extreme version of it, and we can all connect with that. Trauma is now expressing itself and eventually it runs out. It's finite, and eventually it it comes to rest, it ends. [06:40:48] Like smoke coming out of a pot. You know, you turn the heat off, and you just rest and watch, and eventually the smoke finishes. It's like this, a pot, smoke coming out. [06:48:87] Eventually the smoke, what? So there's an empty space there now. [06:55:62] And the more and more you do this, the more and more emptiness within you. May have heard, first you have to empty before you can be free. It's like this, you have to empty all the smoke out of you. [07:07:44] The only thing that I've found that isn't finite. You know, you go traveling the world, and do all these things, and relationships, and all these things, they all end up in the same place, boredom and needing more, and needing to do more and never ends. He's grasping more, more, more. The mind never rests. There's no rest for the head of man. [07:16:32] This is the only thing that I've found that doesn't end and just keeps getting deeper and deeper, and more profound and more profound. It's intimate. And it's you. It's the vastness. It doesn't have an end, and it has no beginning. [07:32:89] It's prior to your birth and after your death of this. It's the paper the words are written on. You know, we put all our attention on the words, and we never see the paper. So on the image on the screen, but we never see the projector. [07:47:11] And and, you know, the paper's vast. The words are not. [07:53:77] And I've tried both. I've lived in as an identity, quite a strong one for quite a long time. [08:06:55] The two don't compare. And I found this and lost it for a little while and I was shocked at how different it was again when I fell out with a little while for a few hours one night. The worst night of my life, and I've had some pretty shitty nights, I can tell you. But that was by far the worst night of my life when I realized this difference again, because an arrogance was appearing. [08:18:23] And uh, I got a reminder. [08:20:73] Of the preciousness. [08:28:90] If you're lucky. [08:35:86] And if it was easy everybody'd be doing it, by the way, so I understand that. [08:38:70] This is a challenging path. [08:41:88] But if you've seen enough, you know there's no option. [08:45:90] If you've suffered enough, you know there's no option. But that's just an understanding. People come to what they don't. They're ready or they're not. There's no getting around that. There's no circumnavigating that. It's just how it is. [08:52:95] It can't be created. It can't be instilled. [09:08:00] Please like or subscribe if you found value. [09:11:00] Meet Rohan via Rohan.life.

• Emotional Avoidance
  The primary mechanism that perpetuates suffering by storing unfelt energetic charges in the body, which then become repeating patterns.
• The System
  The human body's energetic and cellular structure, which acts as a storage mechanism for unresolved trauma and unfelt emotional frequencies.
• Stored Energy (The Smoke)
  Unprocessed emotional events (trauma) held in the body's system. This energy is finite and will dissipate ('run out') when it is fully felt without resistance.
• Pattern
  A conditioned, automatic response driven by stored past energies resonating with present stimuli. The collection of these patterns is often mistaken for a stable 'I' or personality.
• Feeling Muscle
  The capacity and skill set required to consciously experience uncomfortable sensations in the body without reacting or avoiding them. This is a faculty that can be strengthened through practice.
• Emptying
  The process of allowing stored energy ('smoke') to express itself and dissipate, creating a void of inner space where the pattern used to be. A prerequisite for freedom.
• The Paper
  A metaphor for Unconditioned Consciousness or pure awareness. It is the vast, unchanging background on which the transient 'words' (thoughts, feelings, identity) appear.
• Direct Seeing
  The practice of experiencing reality without the filter of avoidance or craving; directly feeling what is present in the system moment-to-moment.
• The Tearing
  The acute, visceral sensation of loss or separation, such as the death of a loved one or the end of a relationship, which is a natural human experience often avoided.
• Cessation of Suffering
  Not the attainment of permanent happiness, but the end of the mechanical process of storing and re-triggering past pain through emotional avoidance.